A Man’s Perspective on Making Marriage Work

In most cases, marriage talks and how to make it work is a female-dominated arena. It actually helps to understand and have a broader perspective if you consult a man’s view about this. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and demands a lifetime of patience and effort to make it work. Just like any other romantic relationships, it takes two to tango hence it is as important a topic to men as it is to women. What do men think about marriage and how they could make their commitment last for a lifetime?

Avoid Fixing the Problem

Male Viewpoint on Making Relationship Work Men make a fatal mistake of trying to fix the problem and issues they have with their wife. Women would ask help if they need it and if they deem fixing needs to be done. Women usually share their problems especially to their husbands not just to resolve the issue but to reduce their stress and tension. When they do share their problems, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are asking you to fix it. They just want you to listen.

Learning from the Past

Past conflicts and problems ought to make you learn from your past mistakes and start anew. A mistake when repeated is no longer a mistake. If you repeat the wrong things you have done, you are intentionally doing something which you know could hurt your wife. Avoid the same mistake to prevent digging up mistakes from the past and further complicating your problem.

Rekindle the love flame

Most married men make a common mistake of being complacent and taking their wives for granted. It is very helpful and effective to rekindle your marriage and romance. Love fades especially if you do not make the effort to make the love keep on burning. Be extra sweet to your wife. Simple thoughtfulness may be trivial but it means a lot to your spouse especially if you have not spent a lot of romantic times together.

Communicate effectively

Communication is a vital key in a strong and lasting marriage. Effective communication means knowing when to speak and when to attentively listen to your spouse. Allow your partner to air out what she feels and thinks. Listen but do not make any judgment or interrupt your spouse while she is talking. If it is your turn to speak, be honest and transparent in what you want to say. Most importantly, make sure that there is still mutual respect even if you are upset or angry. Refrain from saying words which could affect your spouse or hurt or insult her.

Be physically and emotionally available

Spending quality time with your spouse is a significant pillar which could hold a marriage together for a long period of time. You have to be there during special occasions and if you are there, make sure you are emotionally and mentally present as well. Show your wife that you are present not because you are obliged to do so but you’re doing it with all your mind and heart.